Through all the years I was backpacking, working and writing, my dates were always raw and real. Genuine real people who I bumped into in real life. I’m talking about these dates, loves, flings and partners down the years but in this post today I will contrast those offline dates to the possibility of online dating, which has become so popular the last few years with sites such as welovedates.com.
I met Emma in Bournemouth in the Litten Tree Pub in 2004 and we dated for around a month or so, which including once having sex upstairs at a party in my friend’s bed. True story.
I met the lovely Lauren in Jumpin Jaks nightclub in Bournemouth in 2004 and we had about 4 months together. We went to the pub, to cinema, to gigs etc. She was a great girlfriend but we split early. She once gave me a willy suck in a park in Poole.
Yes Fee was her name and we met in 2006 and dated for a while. We enjoyed good food and some fanny willy action but split up quite soon. In fact of all those on the list, she is probably the one I kept friends with the most and am still in touch today. She’s married now…
Hungarian dancer Noemi was my first true love when we worked together in theatre in 2008. We dated and shagged on and off for around 6 months, I was madly in love. We backpacked Hungary, Italy and London together before I left Bournemouth, and the pretty Noemi long and far behind.
Panny, Hong Kong
My longest ever relationship and one which may never be beaten for time, love nor backpacking potential. Panny and I toured a whopping 44 real countries together, visited all 7 continents together and loved our adventures for around 5 years. We separated in 2015, after which I never found that love again.
Ola Mueller, Poland/Russia
Teasing dishonest seductress Ola Mueller makes the list with some aplomb. She teased her way into my life from a bunk bed in Bucharest in 2014 until she finally humiliated me and embarrassed me with a string of nasty childish lies to plunge me into deep depression. I’ll never forget her, but I wish I could. Apologise to me please – I’m constantly in depression from your nastiness.
Monika has been my best romance since Panny in 2015 but I walked out on her after she was angry with me, I didn’t need any more hassle after the lies of Mueller. After Monika, I had a few dates but none were long term.
But Can you Find Love Online?
So all those girls were real life flings, I met them when out and about but what about online dating? I used to hate the idea of online dating as it seemed so fake but over the years I have realised that maybe it isn’t so bad and maybe I’d be up for it. Here are some ways to do it and I’m now trying it!!
Download the app and click like or super like on the girl or boy you like. If you match, you can message them and meet them. You can put your photos and Instagram on here, so it’s a great way to connect. Find Tinder here.
Sympatia is a superb Polish online dating site which I signed up for once I had relocated to Poland. I have never met anyone from it yet, but know knows. This actually also helps me learn and improve my Polish as it is written in Polish.
We Love Dates
There is a great free dating site called We Love Dates. On here, you can expect to sign up, fill in an interesting profile and wait for the matches to come. Naughty dates, dinner dates and anything you might be up for. Sites like this are up and coming and look to be the future of online dating, especially for shy people. I’ve never been as shy as some, but I am willing to give online dating a try. Maybe I will be back online in a few months without depression, with the apology I craved and a new love. Who knows what the future might hold.