“Instead of wondering when your next vacation is maybe you should set up a life you don’t need to escape from, ” said Seth Godin.
Let’s unpack that sentence for a moment.
You don’t have to settle down. You don’t have to sacrifice everything for a permanent home. You have other choices.
You don’t have to get an established job. You can if you want, but you can also create your own business.
When you don’t have to do any of these things, then you won’t need to escape. You won’t need to go on vacation to escape the stress, tension, and pressure of your life.
So, what can you do instead?
You can – and should — live life to the fullest at ALL times, not just on vacation days.
Move somewhere you want to be. Be with people whose company you enjoy. Do something that excites you.
How to Discover a More Exciting Life
Here are some steps you can try to change your life:
Step #1: Think of your life as a story. If it were a book, would you flip from one page to the next eager to find out what happens? Is it a book you would read with bated breath? If it’s a rather dull book, then maybe it’s time to write another one. What does your life story really say about you?
Step #2: If your life is not a page-turner, you need some clarity. Do you like where you live? Do you like the people in your life? Do you like the work that you do? Make a list of all the things you like and all the things that you would like to be different.
Step #3: Figure out what to keep and what to leave behind. If you dread spending time with your friends, then you need new friends. If you hate going to work, then you need to find another way of making a living. Think about what to drop and what to add to your life. Think about what to stop and what to start. As you think in this way, you’ll come up with a plan of escape.
Step #4: Do something about your plan. Put your goals into action. Make it happen. If you need things to be different, you have to be different. You have to think, feel and live in a different way. For all this to happen, you have to take action. Fight for your dreams, and dream about a happier life.
Step #5: Stop trying to improve yourself. If you think you need to change yourself, it means you feel you’re not good enough. Also, quit trying to impress other people. This also signals a sense of inferiority. You won’t go far if you keep disapproving of yourself. Sure, work on learning new skills and getting better at doing things, but do it from a place where you first accept yourself as you are. It’s not about fixing something; you’re not broken. It’s more about expressing more of yourself.
Step #6: Move to a place where you can start over. It may be to another house in your neighborhood. It may be to another town. It may be to another state. It may even be to another country. The move will allow you to create a fresh start. If you dread the logistics of moving, a professional mover can help to handle all the details for you. A company like United Van Lines can handle the stress of packing and unpacking for you. Think of a new place as a new beginning. Ideally, make it a place you want to stay around for awhile. Choose a place that you don’t need to escape from.
Step #7: Find your tribe.Look for people you have a lot in common with. If you’re practical and down-to-earth, you’ll appreciate people like that. If you’re artistic and love imagining new possibilities, you’ll prefer the company of dreamers. If you’re into business, you’ll relish the camaraderie of ambitious people. Find people who make you feel more alive. Life is too short to compromise. Yes, it’s wonderful to get along with everyone around you, but if you’re looking for exhilaration, find people who share your values. And, if you want to change the world, find people who resonate with your ideals.
Your Ultimate Goal
Your ultimate goal is not just to change your life and make it more exciting. It’s much bigger and grander than that.
Your goal is to hunt for a life worth living.
How you define a good life depends on your ideals. The important thing is to quit living out a life that you inherited. Quit living out of your past.
Instead, invent a life that thrills you.
What if you could create a life that you loved? What if you didn’t need to go on a vacation to escape your life?
Your ultimate goal, then, is to be more yourself. When you’re more yourself, you’ll be happier. What is happiness, anyway? Mahatma Gandhi had a good grasp of the concept. He said, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”